A promise with Satan (Shaitan):
“We won’t let your traditions die. Until anyone of the Khoja community member is alive on the surface of this earth you don’t have to worry at all, we will serve you at our best and will promote all negative traditions in society.”
Yet another girl of our community decided not to get married just few hours before reaching the marriage hall as her family could not pay the required amount demanded by the groom’s family and also they have a “Fixed Price” tagged on the groom. Although girl’s father in law showed the utmost generosity and granted few days to her family for fulfilling his wish list.
The poor girl was sitting in the parlor and getting ready to start her new journey when she came to know that dowry which was sent day before to groom’s house was rejected by father in law as “TV trolley was without a TV” and “Split AC” was not included in the package. Just two hours remaining in wedding ceremony, she had to take a quick decision whether to enter in the hell for her whole life or to remain behind and fight with the hypocrites of the society and prove herself innocent infront of everyone.
Somehow she prepared herself to face all the hurdles and problems which are going to be created by so called “Cultured Khoja Society” and denied from getting married in that mentally sick family. Great work!
Hey one more thing, you guys must be aware of a tradition called “Pairamri”, aren’t you ?? I am sure you are, as you also made thousands from it. For those who don’t know about this tradition, lemme explain you. This tradition is another nice way to suck the blood of poor bride’s family. Groom’s family usually hands over a list of nearby relatives to bride’s family and they have to pay some ”SMALL” token gift/money to relatives. Usually this list is between 20 – 30 people and it can increase to infinity. The gift depends on the relation, the closer the relation is, the gift has to be more expensive and ofcourse for sisters and mother nothing less to gold is accepted.
In the case I mentioned above the small token money demanded was just Rs. 1,000 per relative but the bride family paid Rs. 250 per person and in result the unhappy father in law has no other choice except insulting bride’s family.
Anyways, I don’t know what will come across that poor girl in coming days but I wish her best of luck. I am trying to figure out that what should I pray for her, “May Allah give her that much resources that she can BUY a good husband for her” OR “May Allah give her such family who does not misuse this tradition”.
I hope we all will go with second one.
“We won’t let your traditions die. Until anyone of the Khoja community member is alive on the surface of this earth you don’t have to worry at all, we will serve you at our best and will promote all negative traditions in society.”
Yet another girl of our community decided not to get married just few hours before reaching the marriage hall as her family could not pay the required amount demanded by the groom’s family and also they have a “Fixed Price” tagged on the groom. Although girl’s father in law showed the utmost generosity and granted few days to her family for fulfilling his wish list.
The poor girl was sitting in the parlor and getting ready to start her new journey when she came to know that dowry which was sent day before to groom’s house was rejected by father in law as “TV trolley was without a TV” and “Split AC” was not included in the package. Just two hours remaining in wedding ceremony, she had to take a quick decision whether to enter in the hell for her whole life or to remain behind and fight with the hypocrites of the society and prove herself innocent infront of everyone.
Somehow she prepared herself to face all the hurdles and problems which are going to be created by so called “Cultured Khoja Society” and denied from getting married in that mentally sick family. Great work!
Hey one more thing, you guys must be aware of a tradition called “Pairamri”, aren’t you ?? I am sure you are, as you also made thousands from it. For those who don’t know about this tradition, lemme explain you. This tradition is another nice way to suck the blood of poor bride’s family. Groom’s family usually hands over a list of nearby relatives to bride’s family and they have to pay some ”SMALL” token gift/money to relatives. Usually this list is between 20 – 30 people and it can increase to infinity. The gift depends on the relation, the closer the relation is, the gift has to be more expensive and ofcourse for sisters and mother nothing less to gold is accepted.
In the case I mentioned above the small token money demanded was just Rs. 1,000 per relative but the bride family paid Rs. 250 per person and in result the unhappy father in law has no other choice except insulting bride’s family.
Anyways, I don’t know what will come across that poor girl in coming days but I wish her best of luck. I am trying to figure out that what should I pray for her, “May Allah give her that much resources that she can BUY a good husband for her” OR “May Allah give her such family who does not misuse this tradition”.
I hope we all will go with second one.
I agree to your points .. I was invited in the wedding which you have referred and when I reached at wedding place they told me abt the cancelation. very sad
ReplyDeleteStill such animals exist in our society? m surprised
ReplyDeletewhat are these laljees and bad manners khojaas,selling their boys..
ReplyDeletegood she refuse to marry such kind..what the groom ,is he a man ,i doubt.
Quran says man and woman are equal in all way.then why khojaas ditch their bahu like as if their bahu is their slaves.and the girl parents are their slaves too...
their attitudes toward girls parents immediately change just after marraige..dont they fear GOD.what type of muslim they are..
shame on their knowledge and shame on such ignorant people.
wearing hijab and doing all nonsense doesn't take them to heaven..they are at fault.WAKE UP ...
Your artice is bit harsh as it seems that every Khoja in the world is like that. Maybe for India and Pakistan this is true, for other parts of the world we have different problems among Khojas. May be you can highlight it in some other article.
ReplyDeleteI liked your way of expression.
ReplyDeleteNice article.
Hats off to that girl for such a great decision. I wish her all the best for her future
ReplyDeleteVery Sad.
ReplyDeleteHowever Jamat should take note of such cases and such familes should be penalised or blacklisted.
Zero tolerance in such cases.
"in result the unhappy father in law has no other choice except insulting bride’s family"
ReplyDeleteThis was the punch line
These ppl shld not be forgiven and I agree with Mr.Ameen that they shld be blacklisted and no Khoja Family shld give their girls in that family.
ReplyDeleteAre you serious? Do people still put up their sons for sale? Are these people followers of Ahle-Bait? I agree with Saleem Ali,that these things may still be happening in India and Pakistan and only to some extent else where in the khoja world.But even one case is one to many whereever that may be.The jamaat MUST get involved and help these girls.Having two daughters of my own, I can empathaize with the parents of these girls.Once again the leaders of the Khoja MUST get involved or step down.
ReplyDeleteJamat is a disgrace now!
ReplyDeleteI can beleive on this story. But there are some Khoja Families which you to harrass khoja boys. I came across one case wherein after nikkah the girl ask for a guy for a divorce as she had a boyfriend. Everyone put his efforts for making understand boy to give divorce to her rather than guide girl not to go for such a bad step.
ReplyDeleteNow the rumour against the boy is something same like the one as you mentioned even he was not at fault.
well i would say that there are these kind of families everywhere and in every society if they do not ask for dowry in the beginning they will harass the girl and their families for the rest of their lives. but on such few incidents pointing on the whole community is not right either as there are families in the khoja community who keep no conditions as in these regards. i am pretty sure there will be a lot of people out there who will agree to me also. as far as this particular case is concerned shame on the family who behaved like this giving the entire community a bad name and my hats off to the girl who took such a bold step in her life and my good wishes to her in her life to follow and i am sure she will get a very caring family because she took care of her parents.aamin
ReplyDeleteAre You Khojas Muslim???? If I am not wrong U are the people who pray to Aaga Khan!!! right? Then how you are Muslim. Pls write me if I am wrong. SSG (Cairo, EGYPT)
ReplyDeleteSajjad, no, we are not Ismaili Khojas, but Ithna Asheri Khojas. We believe in the 12 Holy Imams (AS) from Ali (AS) to Al-Mahdi (atfs). We do not pray to any human being, but only to Allah swt.
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Sajjad, we are titled isna Asheri as we believe in the 12 imams (a.s, but please note that we rely on the life of the imams after the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).
ReplyDeleteSajjad, we are titled isna Asheri as we believe in the 12
ReplyDeleteimams (a.s, but please note that we rely on the life of the
imams after the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).